If you look at the research, every gender from every generation is feeling the wear and tear of life. And it’s crazy, that almost none (!) of the turbulence you experience in this life is physical.
But you are guaranteed of stress. Digital stress, financial stress, emotional, mental, social stress, environmental stress. And I’m not even asking you how you feel about your past. You’re trying to live in the now – doing your best to improve your future.
If you’ve never experienced burnout – I feel it’s almost like not having a tattoo by now (just kidding) – it sucks. Not kidding. It can happen to anyone. You’re working hard. Doing your best. Moving up. Getting closer to your dreams. Until one day, you feel stuck between a rock and a hard place. Your perseverance backfires. Your high sense of responsibility made you forget the basics: your own health and wellbeing.
We’re creating awareness. Mental health is a real thing. We’re reading books. Sharing articles. Installing culture managers and heads of people. Developing software to track burnout levels. Corporations label and score as high as possible on wellbeing packages. Still, people are crashing and burning. Sometimes literally.
You’re guaranteed of stress. Are you guaranteed to burnout?
All depends on your understanding of human resilience. What makes you get back up when life smacks you down? What makes you stronger after getting back up? As a resilience coach, I research the hell out of human anti-fragility. I get to practice all the theories on myself as an entrepreneur in a wheelchair. And with my clients, who are wondering how they can bounce back – stronger.
You are wired to perform. Hired to perform. How do you stay energized?
I coach plenty IT professionals. The people with the most in-demand skillset in the marketplace. All of them smart, accomplished and pro-active humans. All dealing with complex problem solving, remote collaboration, delivering quality and never ending deadlines. All challenged with how to keep thriving in a turbulent field, while going through the motions in their personal life. Together, we focus on which habits make them resilient. We double click on how they are managing their energy. Not just on a daily, weekly or monthly basis, but from one moment – to the next.
When you take a hit, or put in a lot of effort, the key to resilience is how quickly you have recovered from that event. Unfortunately, the go-mentality makes us forget that performing on a empty battery is counter-productive. So most of us underappreciate the act of reloading our human battery. Resilience, similar to peak performance, is all about knowing how and when – to reload.
3 reasons why we overlook the value of recovery:
- Strict inner critics
- Forever-young complex
- Poor examples and resources
Ten years ago I broke my neck. My 25 year old mind got catapulted into a 80 year old body. Pulling all-nighters suddenly wasn’t an option anymore. It took me a few burnouts to figure out how much recovery I need, when I need it, and how I recharge beyond the physical. I see the same internal blocks with my clients when we talk about doing things “just for fun” or “because it makes me feel good”. Changing these habits and beliefs is deep work, but the first step is to acknowledge recovery as the foundation for resilience.
That’s why we’re excited to share the Resilience Index from Skara.ai. Get your free, anonymous, and science based Resilience Score and discover how adaptable you are.
Let me know how you scored, and what you think of the questions.